If I’m completely honest with you, these are some things I wish I knew before I retired!
I used to think that my golden years would feel like an extended vacation—slow and lazy mornings, endless amounts of coffee and treats, vacation after vacation, and finally tackling that bucket list I set a decade ago.
And while some of that is true (yes, I love reading and drinking my cup of java, then heading into a mat Pilates session before my husband wakes up), the truth is, retirement hit me like a plot twist. Before you ask, the answer is yes, I didn’t see it coming.
Everyone says how nice it is to wake up and have nothing to do, but no one talks about how it is to wake up and have nothing to do. Or how your identity starts to shift and feel fuzzy, especially if you tied it to your career. Or how weird it is to see the time passing, but your income not getting bigger.
Today’s post isn’t a checklist of “plan a gorgeous, budget-friendly vacation” or “learn how to save money easily.” It’s the real stuff I wish someone had whispered in my ear before I retired. Like how to maintain your curiosity and your sense of meaning, how to build a new routine that keeps you healthy and thriving, and how to protect your happiness just as fiercely as your savings.
If retirement’s around the corner—or you’re already there and secretly asking ChatGPT, “Now what?”—this one’s for you! Let’s talk about the side of retirement that no one really prepares you for. I promise you’ll feel better and more confident at the end of it!
1. You can feel lonely
One thing I wish I knew before I retired is that it can feel pretty lonely. There are no more work chats and spontaneous meetups. No more morning coffees gossiping with your colleagues about how many things you have to get done today, what you cooked the other night, or when you’re going to the movies.
But don’t worry, you can easily fix it. All you have to do is stay social on purpose. Whether it’s volunteering, coffee catch-ups, joining a book club or pickleball league, or setting weekly meetups with your friends, human connection always matters.
Retirement isn’t meant to be spent just by yourself or only with your partner. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh and lift you. Life is always better with company!
2. You don’t realize how much your identity is tied to work
This was a hard lesson for me. I wish someone had told me this before I retired. Entering your golden years isn’t just about leaving a job—it’s stepping away from a whole identity. For me, that was unbearable. But then I remembered my passion for writing and started working as a freelance writer.
When your career is no longer defining you, it can feel disorienting. But here’s the secret: that’s actually where the beauty lies. It’s an opportunity to rewrite your story. Do you have passions you forgot about? Now’s the perfect time to focus on what truly makes your soul happy.
Your golden years aren’t about losing yourself in emptiness. They’re a chance to rediscover who you are—and even turn your life around. Take me, for example. If I hadn’t felt so lost, I wouldn’t be here talking to you now.
3. Health becomes one of the main topics
The more you age, the more important your health becomes—as it should. It might not sound nice, but your body doesn’t have the same ability to regenerate as it did when you were younger, which means you need to take even better care of yourself.
You also have more time on your hands now, so why not go outside to get that vitamin D and get your steps in at the same time? Move your body in whatever way works for you, nourish it with good food, rest as much as you need, and don’t forget to check in on your mental health, too.
Being mindful of your health shouldn’t feel like a chore. Think of it as a gift. You finally get to pour energy back into yourself, to give yourself the care and attention you’ve probably spent years giving to everyone else. After all, feeling good is the ultimate golden years perk!
4. Money talk matters
I knew well before I retired that money would be a key part of this new chapter—and I wasn’t wrong. It was tough at first, watching my savings shrink month by month instead of growing. That shift was more than just financial—it was mental, too. I quickly realized that no matter how much you’ve saved, staying on top of your budget is non-negotiable.
The rule of thumb? Always be prepared for surprise costs. Keep both a savings account and an emergency fund (ideally with three to six months’ worth of expenses), prioritize the things that truly bring value (emotional or material), and don’t feel guilty about the occasional splurge. You’ve earned it, and you deserve to treat yourself every now and then!
Financial peace brings less stress and a whole lot more freedom. And if there’s something you really want but it’s not a priority, try this trick: if you can’t buy it twice, don’t buy it once. It’s a budget-saver!
5. Hobbies aren’t optional—they’re mandatory
Remember the first thing we talked about today? That retirement can feel a little lonely sometimes. Well, this goes hand in hand with that. One of the perks—but also one of the biggest challenges—of retirement is realizing how much time you suddenly have. Sure, lounging on the couch with Netflix sounds fun at first, but it’s way more fulfilling to actually live your golden years.
That’s why hobbies aren’t just cute little time-fillers—they’re mandatory. Whether it’s gardening, writing, singing, learning an instrument, painting, photography, cooking, taking a new course, or anything in between, having something that lights you up gives your days color, purpose, and structure.
Think of hobbies as little gifts to your future self. They keep your mind sharp, your soul fueled, and your heart happy. After all, you don’t want to turn into a cranky senior like Scrooge, do you?
6. Travel is great, but so is being home
Jetting off to those dreamy destinations you’ve always longed for? Absolutely thrilling. With more time on your hands—and maybe even a bit more financial flexibility—you can finally embrace the travel adventures you’ve put on hold for years.
Before I retired, I barely paid attention to my home. I was always at the office and figured “it works as is.” But once I settled into freelance writing and spent more time indoors, I realized how important it is to feel good, safe, and cozy in your space.
So, I decided to make my everyday life feel like a retreat. I deep-cleaned, updated my décor, added little luxuries, and turned my home into a warm, welcoming paradise. My favorite upgrade? A fancy new coffee machine that makes every morning feel special.
Whatever comfort means to you, make space for it at home—it makes the biggest difference. And if you’re a fellow coffee lover, trust me: this machine is a game-changer. It brews the most delicious drinks, and honestly, I couldn’t recommend it more!
…There are many other things I wish someone had told me before I retired. I could talk about it for hours! So, if you’d like to read Part II, let me know in the comments, and I can have it done for you sooner than you think.
Until next time, take care of yourself, treat your body and mind right, and don’t forget—the best is yet to come!
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