A Personal Perspective: Lessons from Fellow Expats
Over the years, I’ve spoken with dozens of American retirees who have made the leap abroad. While their stories are unique, a few common themes and lessons emerge that are worth sharing. This isn’t just about logistics; it’s about the mindset required for a successful transition.
One of the most frequent pieces of advice I hear is to embrace flexibility. Things will not work the way they do back home. The bank may close for a two-hour lunch, the bureaucracy may seem nonsensical, and “mañana” might be the default answer to when something will get done. A friend living in Italy told me, “You can either fight it and be miserable, or you can take a deep breath, order another cappuccino, and learn to go with the flow.” Your ability to adapt and maintain a sense of humor will be your greatest asset.
Another lesson is the importance of managing expectations. Your new life will not be a permanent vacation. There will be good days and bad days, just like anywhere else. You will miss your family and friends back home. You will get frustrated by the language barrier. Acknowledging this from the start helps prevent disillusionment. It’s about building a real, sustainable life, not escaping from reality.
Finally, every successful expat I know has emphasized the need to be a gracious guest. You are a guest in someone else’s country. Learn a few phrases in the local language, even if it’s just “hello,” “please,” and “thank you.” Show respect for local customs and traditions. The more you integrate and show genuine interest in the culture, the more warmly you will be received, turning a foreign country into a true home. This spirit of community engagement is universal. It’s the same principle that makes programs like AmeriCorps Seniors so rewarding in the U.S.; it’s about connecting with and contributing to the place you live.
