Frequently Asked Questions
How long does empty nest syndrome typically last?
There is no set timeline, as everyone’s experience is unique. For many people, the most intense feelings of sadness and adjustment last for a few months. For others, it can take a year or more to fully adapt to this new way of life. The duration often depends on your support system, your personality, and how proactively you engage in coping strategies. If your feelings of sadness are persistent, severe, and interfere with your daily life for more than a few weeks, it’s important to consult a health professional.
My spouse seems fine, but I’m struggling. Is this normal?
Yes, this is very common and completely normal. People—even those in the same marriage—process major life transitions differently. One partner may feel a sense of relief and freedom, while the other feels a profound sense of loss. The key is open communication. Try to express your feelings to your partner without blame or judgment, using “I feel” statements. For example, “I feel sad and a bit lonely now that the house is so quiet.” This can help your partner understand your experience and find ways to support you, even if they aren’t feeling the same way.
Is it selfish to focus on myself now that my children are gone?
Absolutely not. In fact, it is one of the healthiest and most necessary things you can do. After decades of prioritizing your children’s needs, focusing on your own well-being is not selfish—it is essential self-care. Your wellness matters. Taking care of your own physical, mental, and emotional health allows you to be a better partner, friend, and parent to your adult children. A happy, fulfilled parent is a wonderful resource and role model for their grown kids.
Does Medicare cover therapy for issues like empty nest syndrome?
Medicare Part B (Medical Insurance) helps cover outpatient mental health services, including therapy and counseling. This coverage can be used to address challenges related to major life transitions, such as empty nest syndrome, if they are affecting your mental health. It is important to see a provider (like a psychiatrist, psychologist, or clinical social worker) who accepts Medicare assignment. Coverage details, including any copayments, can vary. For the most accurate and personalized information regarding your insurance, it is always best to refer to Medicare.gov or contact them directly.
