Frequently Asked Questions
1. Is it normal to feel angry at my late spouse?
Yes, it is completely normal to feel anger as part of the grieving process. You may be angry at your spouse for leaving you, for not taking better care of themselves, or for things left unsaid. This anger is often a mask for the deep pain and helplessness you feel. Acknowledging this anger, rather than feeling guilty about it, is an important step. Talking about these feelings with a trusted friend or a grief counselor can be very helpful.
2. My friends seem to think I should be “over it” by now. How should I respond?
It can be hurtful when others, even well-meaning ones, impose their own timeline on your grief. People who have not experienced this type of loss may not understand that healing takes a long time. You can respond gently but firmly. You might say something like, “I appreciate your concern, but I am still working through my grief, and I need to do it at my own pace.” It can be helpful to seek out a senior support group where you will be understood and not judged.
3. How can I possibly get through holidays and anniversaries?
These milestone days can be incredibly difficult. The key is to plan ahead. Do not wait for the day to arrive and hope you will make it through. Decide beforehand how you want to spend the day. You might choose to start a new tradition, visit a place that was special to you both, or spend quiet time with a close friend or family member. It is also perfectly acceptable to give yourself permission to not celebrate at all if it feels too painful. Do what feels right for you.
4. Does Medicare cover grief counseling or other mental health services?
Medicare Part B (Medical Insurance) helps cover mental health services that you get from a healthcare provider outside of a hospital, such as a psychiatrist, clinical psychologist, or clinical social worker. This includes services like individual therapy and grief counseling. Your specific costs can vary depending on your plan. It is always best to confirm your coverage and any potential out-of-pocket costs. Authoritative health information for seniors is provided by the National Institute on Aging (NIA) and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
For insurance and medical coverage questions, refer to Medicare.gov. For mental health support, consult the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH).
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.
